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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Finalized » April 21, 2015 2:00pm | Report
I feel like I know this community enough (although I don't comment or make threads a lot) and I feel like I am able to talk to you guys now. Mods move this thread to wherever if needed.

I have been playing DotA for a while now, (almost two years) and I have constantly been learning new mechanics, builds and play styles of the game. I have played every hero multiple times, tried some crazy item builds, play supports as carry and a bunch of other things. I have poured so much time and energy into this game, and for some reason my parents hate it.

I have told them so many times before how much this stupid computer game, that I play with friends means to me. and they just don't get it. I'm 16 right now, and I guess they just want me to do good in life or whatever, but I feel like DotA is almost my life. I want to go into the pro scene, but They have forever grounded me from the game. I have tried so many things to get them to let me play this, They have literally blocked the word "DOTA" from our internet, so I cant get access to DotAFire, or DotABuff unless I'm at the library, or at school. They even uninstalled DotA from my steam, and I couldn't download it for two months (I found a way)

So, I guess that I just want to hear any advice from anyone, any stories or experince similar to what I'm 'Dealing' with. I just felt like if I were to talk to anyone about this It would be you guys.

Sorry for the wall of text, thanks for helping
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Blubbles » April 21, 2015 2:13pm | Report
Sucks man.

Dota is sort of like a drug I guess. I use it a stress reliever. And it takes up a good amount of my time. But I do try and moderate myself, usually to about 1-2 hours every day or so. Maybe if you could negotiate with your parents about moderation like you only play on weekends or every other day or something like that, they might let you play.

Anyway, my parents also sort of hate it but they just mock me about it (in a friendly way). Good luck.
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Finalized » April 21, 2015 2:24pm | Report
Blubbles, I am already only alowed to play any video games on weekends, and thanks I think I'll talk to them about that.
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Wulfstan » April 21, 2015 2:51pm | Report
If you rage a lot and get mad in real life because you lost at Dota, I see them doing this because it's for your own sake. I am actually going to the school's psychologist to talk about stuff like this (not just dota related stuff) - it's really good to know there's someone there that listens to your problems without judging you.


Also, step up. I wasn't allowed to play a lot of video games when I was younger as well. Things changed drasticly after 2 years.
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Finalized » April 21, 2015 3:22pm | Report
wulfstan, As blubbles said I also use it to relive stress. I dont really get mad. However thank you.
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Hamstertamer » April 21, 2015 4:48pm | Report
Parents know literally nothing about video games because they had no computers when they were young. They don't even know what the games are about, or why people play them! So they make up some ******** out of ignorance, like the fact that video games encourage violence or turns people into friendless and depressed dropouts.

The truth is, there's only one downside to video games, which is the fact that they suck out a lot of your time, and that they get you nowhere in life. You certainly won't have anything bad happen to you because you play a lot of video games, however you're not doing anything else during that time so it can make you miss out on other stuff.

As long as you are doing what you're supposed to do (like being successful at school and stuff), and as long as you understand the limits of playing video games (it's fun but it's not getting you anywhere), your parents shouldn't be preventing you from doing what you enjoy. At least that's what I would tell my parents if I could come back in time to that kind of situation (I graduated from university 2 years ago so now I'm beyond this).

I wouldn't advise anyone to even consider professional gaming as a career though. It's very, very unreliable and it won't get you anywhere in the long run. There's maybe a lot of money in competitive dota right now, but will there even be anyone still playing dota when you finish university or whatever you're studying? Likely not. There will still be doctors and bankers in 10 years, but there probably won't be any professionnal dota players anymore, and you will be screwed. So beware that.
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by caine1232 » April 21, 2015 4:52pm | Report
Blubbles wrote:

Sucks man.

Dota is sort of like a drug I guess. I use it a stress reliever. And it takes up a good amount of my time. But I do try and moderate myself, usually to about 1-2 hours every day or so. Maybe if you could negotiate with your parents about moderation like you only play on weekends or every other day or something like that, they might let you play.

Anyway, my parents also sort of hate it but they just mock me about it (in a friendly way). Good luck.


Using DOTA as a stress reliever? Are we playing the same game? DOTA has got to be one of the most toxic games i have every played (toxic behaviour from players)...
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Fedorable » April 21, 2015 4:56pm | Report
Hamstertamer wrote:

Parents know literally nothing about video games because they had no computers when they were young. They don't even know what the games are about, or why people play them! So they make up some ******** out of ignorance, like the fact that video games encourage violence or turns people into friendless and depressed dropouts.

The truth is, there's only one downside to video games, which is the fact that they suck out a lot of your time, and that they get you nowhere in life. You certainly won't have anything bad happen to you because you play a lot of video games, however you're not doing anything else during that time so it can make you miss out on other stuff.

As long as you are doing what you're supposed to do (like being successful at school and stuff), and as long as you understand the limits of playing video games (it's fun but it's not getting you anywhere), your parents shouldn't be preventing you from doing what you enjoy. At least that's what I would tell my parents if I could come back in time to that kind of situation (I graduated from university 2 years ago so now I'm beyond this).

I wouldn't advise anyone to even consider professional gaming as a career though. It's very, very unreliable and it won't get you anywhere in the long run. There's maybe a lot of money in competitive dota right now, but will there even be anyone still playing dota when you finish university or whatever you're studying? Likely not. There will still be doctors and bankers in 10 years, but there probably won't be any professionnal dota players anymore, and you will be screwed. So beware that.


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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by Sando » April 21, 2015 6:45pm | Report
You and your parents have a disagreement over what's best for you (which is all they want), and they probably lack understanding of why you want to play so much. I used to have the same thing 20 odd years ago (I'm so old now :)) with my dad about how much time I spent playing X-Com (on 4 floppy disks), Quake or whatever.

The best advice I can give you on resolving this is to negotiate. If you act like an adult and be reasonable, you're much more likely to get what you want. There's certain things they'll want from you - e.g. time spent doing homework, grades, chores, whatever. You want more time playing DOTA.

Make a deal with them. You do an hour or two's solid homework/revision/whatever every night, you get to play for an hour after that. Or whatever deal you can come to. Ask them what they want, and go from there.
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Permalink | Quote | PM | +Rep by armc3j » April 21, 2015 8:59pm | Report
Remember that we are in a relatively new age. my parents never had video games.. When they got bored they went and played outside. When they got stressed, they played outside, etc. Most of a parents teachings are based on their experiences, and your parents probably never had the opportunity to have a computer and p,as games like you do now. So they have nothing to go off of. It's clear, uncharted territory. My advice is this: explain to your parents how you feel(but I wouldn't say anything about going pro, that REALLY a unreliable) and talk about your differences in a clear, logical argument. You have to show them that, if you want your game back(this goes for anything grownupish really)m you are willing to reason with them like equals, like adults
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